Frequently Asked Questions
“You’re always one decision away from a totally different life.”
When searching for someone to help you on your specific journey you will have questions. This is good. You should have questions. It is so important for you to find some one you feel comfortable with and can trust to navigate the journey that lies before you. Below is an attempt to answer some of those initial questions you may have. Should you have additional questions please reach out through the contact form. I would be happy to connect with you and discuss your situation to see how we can best work toward a solution or refer you to other options that may be better suited for your particular situation.
Therapy and counseling can take on many different forms.
At its core therapy is the pursuit of meaning and truth in the midst of confusion and uncertainty. There is a longing for clarity and a way forward.
Therapy involves a trained individual that acts as a guide through the desert to cool springs of refreshment and hope.
A therapist or counselor can walk with you through the valleys of despair and lead you to the mountain tops where a vision for the future can be seen, and the path marked.
Therapy is not a forever commitment, it’s a right now commitment.
Therapy should be used as a means to getting back on your feet and equipped to face the challenges of life stronger and better than before.
Therapy is for everyone.
If you have an issue that has been nagging at you, or a relationship you desire to be better, there is a way.
If you are uncertain, speak to a few therapists to see what they have to offer and what they can do for you.
If you have specific needs seek out a specialist trained specifically for your needs. Not all therapists and counselors are equipped equally. Training and experience matter.
Most people can benefit from counseling services at some point in their lives. Seeking professional assistance is a sign of good coping skills and intelligence, not a sign of weakness.
Counseling gives you the benefit of an outside perspective.
The feeling of being stuck is usually what brings most people to counseling. Sometimes people feel stuck in a dissatisfying career, relationship, mood, thought pattern, or destructive patterns of behavior. People may approach their “stuckness” or problems in the same ways, each time hoping for different results.
What is necessary is a change in strategy. A new approach.
A counselor is able to offer an objective and caring perspective, utilizing your strengths, to help you move forward. Clarifying your strengths and values, identifying possibilities for your future and unblocking emotions will usually bring relief, clarity, awareness and a renewed energy to face life’s challenges.
Therapy has two purposes, to treat problems as well as improve an already decent life. Most know if you are experiencing emotional disconnect, anxiety, depression, or general difficulty living life you could benefit from therapy and counseling. However, therapy is a useful tool for not only getting healthy but helping us achieve our full potential, and making a good life better.
Here are some reasons to try therapy that may not be common knowledge:
You want to love and accept yourself – Many people have difficulty with this, and they’re not necessarily depressed or afflicted with another mental disorder. Therapy can help you explore roadblocks to self-esteem and teach you practical ways to make your happiness a priority.
You want to make a good marriage great – Many relationships are functional, but no longer fun. Couple counseling can help improve communication and strategize ways to return passion and excitement to a marriage.
You want to be a fantastic parent – Many of us, despite our own objections, revert to parenting patterns we observed in our own childhood. Therapy can help you get out of this rut and become the parent you want to be (and your children need).
You want to thrive in your career – You say you’re unhappy where you are, why aren’t you striving for something different? Is fear, hard work, or interpersonal conflict holding you back? Therapy can be the catalyst for healthy change in your career.
You want to understand your purpose in life – Many therapists love to dive in and help you find out who you are on a deep level, helping you uncover the passions buried under the busyness of life. A desire for this time to self-reflect may mean that…
You want one hour each week to focus completely on yourself – Therapy is a course where you are the subject matter. You can explore yourself, go deeper into your current thoughts and feelings, or just sit and “be” for a while. This vital practice has become a forgotten art in our world today.
You want to let go and forgive – Holding a grudge isn’t a diagnosable condition, but it does have serious physical, emotional, and relational consequences. Through therapy, you can learn to resolve these issues for yourself and move on.
You want a place to practice assertiveness, expressing emotion, or anything else – Therapy is a laboratory for you to explore, experiment, and practice behaviors that are scary in the rest of life. Shy people can practice confrontation. Detached people can experiment with expressing emotion. When you’ve tried this out a few times in session, you may be ready to take it out into the world.
Therapy helps treat serious problems, but it offers so much more. Reach out and schedule today for what could be the beginning of your journey toward a fuller life.
Deciding to Find a Couples Therapist
Research shows that, on average, couples wait six years from the onset of a problem until they seek help from a specialist. By this time, it’s not uncommon for a marriage to be in crisis. For this reason, if you are seeking couple counseling, it’s imperative that you find the help of a therapist who specializes in marriage and couple therapy. Often, when a therapist offers couples counseling, it is usually part of a range of other services. At REtherapyCenter, couple therapy is at the center of what we do. We have deep expertise that comes from our focused and evidence-informed approaches.
Ask A Couple Therapist About His or Her Experience
When choosing a couple therapist, you should ask the therapist several important questions. First, ask them about their training and experience. Couple therapy is considered one the most challenging types of therapy to do, and so it’s imperative that you find a couple therapist who has extensive training and experience in the field. Ask the therapist what percentage of their practice is made up of marriage and couple therapy clients. Avoid therapists who mostly do individual work, as they are likely not skilled in working with couples.
Check Therapist’s Certification
Ask the therapist if they are part of a professional organization that certifies credentials in the field of marriage or couple counseling. Certification and licenses in the field of marital and couple therapy shows the therapist has devoted his or her time toward being a seasoned and competent practitioner.
Use Evidence-Based Models
Find a therapist that utilizes an evidence-informed model. There are countless approaches in the field of couple therapy, but only a handful of them have demonstrated effectiveness or long-term success. Finding a therapist who utilizes an evidence-informed model can dramatically increase the chances that your couple therapy will have lasting and long-term success.
Choose A Counselor Who Feels Right
Lastly, go with your gut. It’s important to find a therapist who feels like the right fit, for both you and your partner. While other therapists might meet the all the criteria that we’ve discussed, if they don’t feel like the right match for you, there’s a good chance that the therapy won’t be helpful. Reputable resources for locating couple therapy specialists include: The Gottman Institute, The International Centre For Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), The National Registry of Marriage-Friendly Therapists, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy.
Counseling is a process of self-examination, clarification of values and beliefs, emotional awareness, and growth. You may choose to make changes in your attitudes, perceptions, and behavior as you progress.
Research has shown that counseling may contribute to increased productivity, enhanced self-respect, and improved communication in all kinds of relationships.
Sometimes the process may be energizing, exhausting, or even painful.
Emotional healing may become personally enriching, causing you to face conflict in relationships and learn new coping styles.
We will do everything possible to provide a positive counseling experience for you.
On your first visit, your counselor will ask you many questions to find out what brings you to counseling, what you hope to gain from your visits, and information about your history. The initial session is a chance for you to get a feel for your counselor’s style and to make sure that it is a “good fit” for you.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for counseling, it will be different depending on the individual. We tailor our therapeutic approach to your specific needs.
How long are therapy sessions and how many sessions should I expect?
Traditionally, therapy is offered once a week for 50 minutes. We know that doesn’t work for everyone. Sometimes people need more services and sometimes they need less.
We will tailor make therapy to fit your needs and goals. Most often people are meeting weekly until they begin to notice the improvements they want to achieve.
What should I expect in the first session?
Prior to your first session you will fill out some general information, We will send this to you so you have an opportunity to read some information on my office policies. During the initial appointment, we will review some of your history and we will have an opportunity to discuss the reasons you are interested in counseling. We will focus on your conflicts and the triggers that at times keep you two apart and interfere with the feelings of security in the relationship. This will be the beginning of our identifying the negative cycle which stops the two of you from feeling close to one another.
We accept Cash, Visa, MasterCard, and American Express. We do not accept prepayment cards. Payment is due at the start of each session.
Free – 15 Minute Initial Telephone Consult
$100 – 50-60 Minute Session
$150 – 80-90 Minute Session
$200 – 110-120 Minute Session
Fees are within the FAIR pricing standards of the Healthcare Bluebook. Search for Individual Psychotherapy or Family Psychotherapy in the bluebook.
Counseling is an investment in yourself, relationships and life. The investment goes a long way when you apply it outside of session as well to other areas of life.
Many times, the goals people achieve through counseling are priceless.
Another way to gain some perspective is to consider what will it cost you if you don’t invest in yourself and/or relationship? How many more years, how much heartache or resentment, how many opportunities will be lost?
With therapy you learn concrete skills to have a healthier, better, stronger, more vibrant, and more fulfilling marriage and life.
Therapy is an investment that is hard to put a price tag on.
You may spend money on buying healthy, food, joining health clubs, and getting prescription drugs for your needs. However, your emotional needs are more important than any other need because it can impact them all. Don’t stop yourself from getting the life and the relationship you want. Call us to start feeling better!
It’s actually quite common that one partner in a relationship is not ready to do therapy. If you become a healthier you, your partner may soften and lean into getting help. Stop the blaming, shaming, attacking to get them in. Even though you are working so hard to save the relationship, it does not work. We know this is a very tough place to be and often paralyzing.
Many of our clients start the process themselves and still improve their relationship. It is a scary and difficult step to come into a stranger’s office and share all your private matters. Starting therapy and marriage counseling takes a lot of courage. However, you won’t see any changes without taking any steps. With a brief 15-minute phone consult you get a chance to interview us to determine your comfort level with us and get all your questions answered.
“My partner is afraid that you will take my side and get criticized and attacked.”
It is common for a person in couple therapy to have this concern. The reality is this is not how couple therapy and marriage counseling work. Your friends and families might have already done this, and it may have only created more conflict and tension. Our role is to be the unbiased, third party helping both of you get on the same page as a united front against the problems and the setbacks.
We help the two of you, as a team, identify ways to move forward. As trained marriage counselors and couple therapists, we will work with you to optimize your relationship instead of repeating the same, old pattern.
We are open to feedback if you feel like we are taking sides. You can also invite your partner to learn more about us. We welcome your partner to interview us with a free 15-minute phone consult of their own. We want both of you to feel comfortable.
“I talk to my partner, and he/she just does not want to talk to anyone.”
You can still get help having “Couples Therapy for One.” You and your partner are part of your relationship system. What we know, and have seen, is that it is possible to create positive changes in a relationship with one partner learning new, clear, concrete strategies.
Research shows us that a relationship can often be saved with just one partner’s desire and effort to be the first to make a change. Marriage counseling and couple therapy can help you change the dynamic even just with you in the office.
As your therapist, we are here to help you to sort out your thoughts and feelings so you gain the clarity to make decisions that will make you feel better. We won’t tell you what to do. We will help facilitate an environment that brings about open, honest, vulnerable, and safe conversations so you can examine all the information and make the best decision for your goals and desires moving forward. We will help you understand what is not working and teach you skills to get the relationship and/or desired outcome you want. We can help you to get from where you are to where you want to be.
Rediscover Your Partner…
A Treasure Awaits the Brave
I make therapy convenient and easy with evening and weekend availability to fit your busy life.
Clients who work with me appreciate my straightforward and down-to-earth approach.
I will work with you to create a path out of the darkness and back into the light.
If you are here, you know you need help. It’s time for something to change. Schedule a free 15-minute consult today.