Tired, overwhelmed, and defeated…
Whether it’s a silent pulling away or an explosive outburst of emotion, you are aware that something is keeping you from experiencing love, trust, and peace.
Your relationships suffer because you don’t allow yourself to get too close or feel that connection you long for with your person.
When you’re reserved, suspicious, or guarded much of the time, it slowly erodes the fabric holding you together.
It’s like you have a silent, invisible enemy thwarting every effort you make to live the life you’ve been seeking.
Invisible walls keep you protected, but they also imprison you.
These walls are stories you tell yourself to make meaning and sense of previous traumatic events.
You believe that you are alone in this world. You were abandoned in some way earlier in life by a parent, friend, or lover. You were scared, and a void opened up within you. You felt vulnerable and exposed. As a result, you need to control most situations and demonstrate a high level of competency. You can’t let that ever happen to you again.
You really need to learn to trust others and develop an ability to connect.
Perhaps, you don’t feel safe, having been abused by someone with power over you. You were hurt and betrayed. So, you’ve created boundaries to protect yourself and become very good at withstanding the pain that comes your way. “I will take care of myself.” This has hindered your ability to be vulnerable and authentically connect with those close to you.
You need to know and learn it’s safe to ask for help.
When things get tough, you sense danger, almost like you’re about to die. It could be a difficult conversation or a project that needs to be completed. It becomes utterly overwhelming. Instead of staying present in the moment, knowing you are safe, you either disappear, isolate, or switch into survival mode, which takes various forms, sometimes destructive.
You need to know you are safe, welcome, and protected here.
If this continues, you are left feeling alone, powerless, and in constant danger, even when others are available to connect, help, and protect.
Unfortunately, these walls keep you from the life you desire and deserve.
Work becomes overbearing and stressful beyond what’s typical as you try to achieve more and more while hiding what you truly need.
Home life is strained, and conversations now become cold war talks and often lead to days of tension between those that should be connected. Will shots be fired, or will this blow over? What should be a place of safety and comfort has become a war zone.
Social life used to be a welcomed escape, but it has become almost nonexistent because things that once interested you now seem stale and no longer hold your desire. The only benefit is drinking that helps numb and drowns out the discomfort, but it’s cheaper to do this at home and easier to isolate yourself from your demons behind closed doors while you try to maintain a happy façade to those around you.
There is hope!
These invisible narratives can be reprocessed and rewritten.
The walls keeping you from the life you desire can be removed and replaced with catapults that launch you into a new reality.
A new perspective awaits you – as does freedom from the prison holding you back from the full life you deserve.
EMDR gives you that new perspective.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a tool that helps you reorganize how your brain has stored distressing memories. It’s an extensively researched and proven method for helping individuals dealing with trauma, depression, anxiety, panic disorders, PTSD, and obsessive-compulsive disorders.
If you’ve had a distressing life experience involving violence, abuse, neglect, or chronic pain, EMDR can help.
EMDR is different from other therapies…
… because you don’t have to talk in detail about the distressing issue or complete homework between sessions. And for many clients, EMDR therapy can be completed in fewer sessions than other psychotherapies.
Rather than focusing on changing the emotions, thoughts, or behaviors related to the distressing issue, EMDR helps the brain resolve unprocessed traumatic memories through a natural healing process.
Our brains have a natural way of recovering from traumatic memories and events. It involves communication between the amygdala (the alarm signal for stressful events), the hippocampus (which assists with learning, including memories about safety and danger), and the prefrontal cortex (which analyzes and controls behavior and emotion).
Often, traumatic experiences can be managed and resolved spontaneously, but others cannot be processed without help. When distress from a disturbing event remains, the disturbing images, thoughts, and emotions may create an overwhelming feeling of being back in that moment, essentially “freezing you in time.”
EMDR therapy helps the brain process these memories, allowing normal healing to resume. The experience is still remembered, but the “fight, flight, or freeze response” from the original event is resolved.
Many clients tell me they feel a greater sense of peace, hope, and resilience after receiving EMDR therapy.
Here’s how it works…
I have completed several trainings in treating trauma and am working toward becoming a Certified EMDR Therapist through the EMDR International Association.
I want to help you recognize the full life-limiting impact that trauma has had on you and then help you slowly find the courage to work through the traumatic memories in a SAFE way. This allows the stored experience to be “rewritten,” leaving you empowered with a new narrative that brings you peace, joy, and some control over what happens next in life.
A greater sense of peace, hope, and resilience awaits you.
EMDR is no magic bullet – it’s a lot of work to get from being scared and overwhelmed to the peace and joy you desire. But it’s possible and worth the effort, even if that possibility seems super scary to you right now.
Together, we will create a targeted treatment plan that will allow your memories to heal and become just that: memory.
Your past doesn’t have to define your future.
Call (480) 908-7898 today and schedule your free 15-minute consultation.